Mediation Is Not Just for Adults!

Child Inclusive Mediation offers you, as a child or young person, the chance to meet and converse with a trained mediator who is assisting your parents in navigating family matters due to separation or divorce. This process can benefit you as well, whether your parents are getting along or experiencing conflict regarding decisions that affect you.

You might feel that you have little to contribute, that your thoughts are insignificant, or that they won’t make a difference. You may also feel pressure to express what you think one of your parents wants to hear. Regardless of your feelings about the situation or any changes that may impact you, the mediator will value your perspective. Whether you have strong opinions about what you want or suggestions for improvement, the mediator is there to listen, as your voice matters.

You have the choice to inform the mediator whether to share your thoughts with your parents. The mediator will carefully discuss this with you to determine what should remain confidential and what you would like to communicate to your parents. The only exception to this confidentiality would be if any safety concerns arise.

While your parents will ultimately make the decisions, meeting with the mediator can often lead to better outcomes, helping them make informed choices regarding matters that significantly impact you now and in the future.

The Facts

• If you’re 10 or older, you have the right to express your views on issues that affect you and your future. You will be asked if you’d like to meet with a mediator, and both parents must consent.
• Accredited Mediators who work with children are experienced in communicating with young people whose families are undergoing separation and other stressful changes.
• Many children and young people have found it beneficial to discuss their feelings with a family mediator, which also helps their parents understand what matters most to their children through an independent perspective.
• The meeting will be relaxed and informal.
• Meetings typically occur via video online or in the mediator’s office.
• Your parents will not be present during the meeting, although they may accompany you to the mediator’s office for an initial introduction.
• If you have siblings, they may join the meeting too, but the mediator usually meets with each of you individually for a portion of the time.
• The session can last up to an hour, but this is flexible and can be shorter if you prefer.
• Sometimes, a follow-up meeting is arranged to see how things are progressing.
• The mediator may also offer suggestions to support you during these changes.